Relationships and Stuff (Lessons Learned)
Last weekend, I went on a retreat and I went with a lengthy list of prayer points. All that went out the door and the word “relationships” was revealed to be.
God removed a thick vail from over my eyes and allowed me to see my brokeness.
It all started with Nick.
I saw Nick again and I was super excited as usual because he’s so amazing and awesome. He’s a man after God’s heart who is on fire for Jesus. When God calls, Nick moves – without even knowing he’s moving (sometimes moon walking).
Nick asked me what was up, how I was doing and how many things I’m involved in. Brianna proceeded to list my extracurricular activities.
ANY, Success Network, FRO, ASAB, NABA and the list goes on.
Then, Nick asked “what are you missing/what is lacking?” (I’m totally paraphrasing, forgive me. It was something along the lines of, what’s really up with you gurllll?)
At first, I kinda tried my usual trick where I would say, “Nothing”. But hey, it’s Nick, and before I could even think, the word “relationships” shot out of my mouth.
** Fireworks, balloons, sparks flying, angels dancing **
I finally noticed.
More so, God finally revealed to me that so many relationships in my life are strained.
My friends know … Wait what friends? Lol you catch my drift?
And beyond that, I didn’t even realize that my relationship with God was strained. I was basically serving two masters (my accolades plus God). I’m over here saying “was” as though it isn’t all very current, anyway, allow me.
I learned a couple of key things through this revelation:
1) Relationships are important. As much as we would love to only focus on our relationship with God, it’s equally important to maintain relationships amongst God’s people. That doesn’t mean we should be of the world, but it also doesn’t mean we should neglect the world. I got so caught up in my personal journey, that I forgot those around me – my sisters in my very own sister circle. (hey Bri and Lika ;))
2) In order to truly serve God and be elevated; you’ve gotta let some things go!! Say bye bye to things that take up your time. I’ve been sooo occupied doing everything other than what I truly want to do. It’s a constant struggle, because that’s just how life goes. You should never be too busy for God. Even Jesus set aside time to pray faithfully.
3) Pray for God to reveal Himself to you more and more. The scariest thing (in my opinion) is doing something wrong and not knowing it’s wrong. We need God! We need Him now!!
Yeah, that’s all I have to share for now.
I’m thankful that my schedule is clearing up and that God is knocking on my door. I’m definitely gonna go and answer
.. Will you?
I got this prayer from one of my reading plans a while back; unfortunately, I don’t remember which one it’s from so I can’t give credit to the author.
“Lord God, I pray for an increase in godly partnerships. Bring the right people at the right time into my world for the purpose of fellowship and community. Give me discernment when it comes to relationships, and may my life and partnerships be a blessing to your kingdom.”
“Now in the morning, having risen a long while before daylight, He went out and departed to a solitary place; and there He prayed.”
Mark 1:35 NKJV
“Then he said to the crowd, “If any of you wants to be my follower, you must turn from your selfish ways, take up your cross daily, and follow me.
And what do you benefit if you gain the whole world but are yourself lost or destroyed?”
Luke 9:23, 25 NLT
The Advantages of Companionship – Ecclesiastes 4
7 I observed yet another example of something meaningless under the sun. 8 This is the case of a man who is all alone, without a child or a brother, yet who works hard to gain as much wealth as he can. But then he asks himself, “Who am I working for? Why am I giving up so much pleasure now?” It is all so meaningless and depressing.
9 Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. 10 If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. 11 Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? 12 A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.