I Don’t Date.
.. For now.
Lol. No but seriously.
It’s day 3 of 366 of my 366 day boy fast. Yes, boy fast.
I battled with God because I didn’t really want to share this with you all, but It’s not about me.. it’s about advancing the Kingdom! So enjoy.
All my life **Kendrick Voice**, I’ve been in some sort of “relationship” with the opposite sex. I had my first boyfriend in first grade. I’ve never really been single. Whether physically or mentally. We live in an age where bae is always on our mind. #RelationshipGoals #BaeGoals.
Is our relationship with God on our mind as much as we fantasize life with bae? Life locked up with some guy lol.. it’s not as fun as we imagine.
In the past year/years I’ve made a ton of relationship mistakes.. You name it; sexual immorality, not guarding my heart, being unequally yoked (spiritually, mentally) etc.
Thank God for his unfailing mercy, love and forgiveness! He spoke to me and was basically like Yo, Simbi.. O ti to (it’s enough). It’s time to focus on me. You’re young, and single for a reason, so let it all go, and focus on me. (Matthew 6:33).
We take our single season for granted.
It’s the shortest season of our lives if you think about it, yet the one we play around with. Marriage will come however, It’s a time for GROWTH! It’s time to feed our spiritual being. It’s time to get to know our Creator personally and not wait for bae to grow with you. Sometimes, you’ve gotta grind on your own because God wants to show you things you can’t see otherwise.
Think about it.. How old are you? How many more years have you estimated you have till marriage? Ok, anywhere from 4-8 years, cool. After that, what happens? If we do it right, we’re supposed to be married till death do us part right? So why don’t we pause for a second and enjoy the beauty of a single life. These are years we NEVER get back. We only go forward from here, so what exactly is the rush?
Now, I’m speaking to my sisters who don’t believe in unbiblical recreational dating/testing every engine to find the right one. And even if recreational dating is your thing.. Don’t waste your single season.
“Relationships among young people are the core of where we either lose God or gain Him tremendously”
Anyway, y’all get my point!
So why don’t I date? Personally, I’ve decided to commit to 366 days of singleness (it could be longer but we’ll start with 366). This doesn’t mean I get married on day 367, or I stop growing spiritually on day 368. It’s just a way for me to set clear boundaries and commit to something BIG. Therefore, I’m fasting. I’m giving it all up. Not for anyone and definitely not to be praised, but for me. I’m ready for God and I’m SO ready to be elevated.
Y’all probably think I’m weird now. My apologies, christians do radical things for radical change and radical ELEVATION. So go on, judge me! lol.
I would love to know your thoughts sisters (and brothers). Or even married adults that have been through it. When was your single season and what did you learn from it?
Don’t take this life for granted. Let’s plant seeds toward a fruitful future!
Don’t let the excitement of youth cause you to forget your Creator. Honor him in your youth before you grow old and say, “Life is not pleasant anymore.” – Ecclesiastes 12:1
Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. – Matthew 6:33
32 I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him. 33 But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. 34 His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. 35 I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible. – 1 Corinthians 7